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The final stage of the mentoring relationship is closure. During this time, you and your mentee may become closer or may experience increased distance. You may find that you and your mentee feel proud of the relationship and want to spend time together frequently, or, conversely, you both may be ready to move on. Just as a relationship takes time to grow, it also takes time to wind down. The keys to navigating the end of a mentoring relationship are communicating openly and creating an agreement about future contact.

Celebrating and Closing

Define the end and prepare for what’s next.

You and your mentee have invested time and energy in developing this relationship. You’ve had some ups and downs, but you’ve also seen tangible evidence of your mentee’s positive growth and development. Now the mentoring program is coming to a close, or you or your mentee is moving away, or your mentee no longer wants a mentor. Whatever the circumstance, your final act as a mentor is to communicate how much you value your mentee by participating in a formal closure meeting.

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Celebrate the mentoring relationship and work out a plan for the future.

Set aside time to meet with your mentee so that you can both reflect on his growth and the success of the mentoring relationship. Make sure you and your mentee have time to reflect aloud (and perhaps in writing) about the ways in which he has changed and grown since you first met. You can also reminisce about the fun times you’ve shared. Be ready to listen to his fears about moving ahead, and be prepared to share your own. You may want to consider having a final special outing with him.

If your program allows and you and your mentee both desire, you may want to explore continuing the relationship beyond the formal completion date recognized by the mentoring program. You’ll need to work out how you’ll stay in touch, how often you’ll be in contact, and other such details.

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Stick with the program!

You may find that once this mentoring relationship comes to a close, you’re still interested in being a mentor. Let your mentoring program coordinator know and get ready to embark again on the exciting journey of mentoring a young person to reach his or her full potential.

An “appreciative interview” allows you to reflect on your relationship with your mentee.

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When you do an appreciative interview with your mentee, it allows both of you to reflect on the relationship, the positive experiences you’ve shared, and the ways in which your mentee has developed and matured. You can have an appreciative interview at any time during the relationship, but it can be particularly helpful in easing the transition during closure. In the interview, you and your mentee can ask each other the following questions:

  • Describe a time when you especially enjoyed your mentor’s or mentee’s company. What were the circumstances during that time?
  • Describe a time when you were proud of an activity you did with your mentor or mentee. Why were you proud?
  • What skills did you use sucessfully during activities you did with your mentor or mentee?
  • What would you like to have done more of with your mentor or mentee? Why?
  • What would you like to do differently?
  • What made your relationship exciting, meaningful, or satisfying?
  • How can your mentor or mentee support or help you in the future?
    • Click the link above to download a list of appreciative interview questions.

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The Center for the Advancement of Mentoring Partners

TCAM is a project of Education Development Center, Inc. (EDC), in collaboration with Dare Mighty Things, Inc. (DMT); Dr. Roger Jarjoura of Indiana University and founder of Aftercare for the Incarcerated Through Mentoring; and Dennis Talbert, President of Empower Outreach, a faith-based mentoring program for high-risk youth. TCAM is funded by the Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention (OJJDP).

 

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Education Development Center, Inc. (EDC). EDC is an international, non-profit organization dedicated to enhancing learning and promoting health. EDC works to reduce barriers and disparities with an emphasis on the most vulnerable populations, especially those living in poverty. EDC builds the capacity of practitioners to reduce juvenile delinquency through strategies such as mentoring system-involved youth; restorative justice; dropout prevention; and prevention/early intervention for youth violence, gang involvement, and alcohol and other drug use.

 

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TCAM Online Training Series for Mentors and Mentoring Program Staff Terms and Conditions for Use

Overview

The TCAM Online Training Series for Mentors and Mentoring Program Staff was developed by TCAM—The Center for the Advancement of Mentoring. It is designed to be used free of charge by youth mentoring programs funded by the Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention (OJJDP) of the U.S. Department of Justice and by other mentoring providers and individuals.

 

The TCAM Online Training Series for Mentors and Mentoring Program Staff includes six online training modules for mentors, which are intended to be used in combination with in-person mentor training provided by mentoring programs, as well as two online modules for mentoring program staff about designing and delivering in-person mentor training. The content of the training series is informed by mentoring research and best practice, the expertise of the TCAM Leadership Team, and TCAM’s experience providing technical assistance to OJJDP mentoring grantees. Each module is designed to be completed in approximately 30 minutes, and individuals may opt to complete one or more of the eight modules.

 

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This training series was created by The Center for the Advancement of Mentoring, operated by Education Development Center, Inc. (EDC), in the performance of Grant No. 2009-JU-FX-K001 awarded by the Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention, Office of Justice Programs, U.S. Department of Justice.

 

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Skillbuilding Exercises

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  • An “appreciative interview” allows you to reflect on your relationship with your mentee.

    An “appreciative interview” allows you to reflect on your relationship with your mentee.

    Click here for Appreciative Interview Questions.

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    Audio Transcript

    When you do an appreciative interview with your mentee, it allows both of you to reflect on the relationship, the positive experiences you’ve shared, and the ways in which your mentee has developed and matured. You can have an appreciative interview at any time during the relationship, but it can be particularly helpful in easing the transition during closure. In the interview, you and your mentee can ask each other the following questions:

    • Describe a time when you especially enjoyed your mentor’s or mentee’s company. What were the circumstances during that time?
    • Describe a time when you were proud of an activity you did with your mentor or mentee. Why were you proud?
    • What skills did you use sucessfully during activities you did with your mentor or mentee?
    • What would you like to have done more of with your mentor or mentee? Why?
    • What would you like to do differently?
    • What made your relationship exciting, meaningful, or satisfying?
    • How can your mentor or mentee support or help you in the future?
      • Click the link above to download a list of appreciative interview questions.